Sadness can be felt as a little bit sad or very sad. You can be sad if you lose a favourite toy or if you do not get a treat after your dinner! Or maybe you have had someone very close to you die, this type of sadness can feel very heavy and you may feel like you will never be happy again.
If you have had something very sad happen to you, don’t be afraid to feel the sadness. Know too that you can let some of this heaviness out from your body. This does not mean that you don’t care about what happened it just means that you are being good to yourself by allowing yourself to have a memory about someone or something without letting it make you feel so bad. You can try and remember a happy memory about the person or thing that will bring a smile to your face. In that way you are bringing joy back to your world while still having a wonderful memory of who it is you miss.
You can learn how to do something called tapping that can help you lesson the feeling of sadness that you feel. Take a look at the picture of the teddy and the picture of the alien. See which one you prefer. They are showing you where you can tap.
You can go here and see Conal using tapping to get rid of his fear of getting sick in the car!!!
You can always change the words and say something like this.
Even though I feel so sad I am a great kid.
I don’t want to forget anything about the person I have lost.
I want to remember them always.
I want to allow some joy come back to me.
I am a great kid.
Take a deep breath
This sadness that I feel is making me feel so heavy, I want to let some of the heaviness in my body go now.
It is ok to let the heaviness go. I am still a great kid without it.
If sadness is turning into depression or lasting a long, long time maybe try using some stronger affirmations to say.
I allow myself not to feel so sad. It is a sad thing that happened to me and I will never forget the memories I have and I don’t want to forget them but I allow myself not to feel so sad.
I want to be able to look back at the memories and smile at the happiness we shared. I am a great kid.
These can be repeated as many times as are needed.
And remember it is ok to feel all the emotions you feel.